Pride: Marion Barbara ‘Joe’ Carstairs

Episode Summary

Joe Carstairs was born Marion Barbara Carstairs in London in 1900 to an American heiress mother and a Scottish army officer father. She grew up bucking gender norms, wearing men's clothes from a young age and going by the name Joe. Her mother tried to tame her behavior by sending her to finishing school, but Joe broke out at 16 to serve as an ambulance driver in WWI. She married a French aristocrat in 1918 but annulled it 3 years later after inheriting her mother's fortune. Joe started a women-only car garage in London called X Garage, with women employees. She also became obsessed with speedboat racing, earning the nickname "fastest woman on water." Her personal life was tabloid fodder, with a string of famous lovers like Marlene Dietrich. Her eccentricities included a doll she was attached to named Lord Todd Wadley. In 1934, Joe bought a private island in the Bahamas called Whale Cay. She built a resort hideaway there for her friends and lovers, with amenities like a power plant and radio station. She ruled the island in a paternalistic way, though gave lifelong stipends to Bahamian staff. In her later years in Florida, Joe recorded audio tapes about her life story. She died at age 93, cremated alongside her beloved doll Lord Todd Wadley.

Episode Show Notes

Marion Barbara ‘Joe’ Carstairs (1900-1993) was one of the most famous socialites of the 20th century. Her hobbies included: racing power boats, owning a women-led garage, and collecting rare dolls on her private islands.

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Her father was Captain Albert Carstairs, a Scottish army officer. Joe was barely born before Albert and Fanny divorced. And some biographers have doubted whether Albert was Joe's biological father. Throughout Joe's childhood, she and her mother lived tumultuous and often conflicting lives. Fanny was an alcoholic and a drug addict, and remarried four times. Her last marriage was to a surgeon famous for his unique rejuvenation practices, which involved transplanting monkey testicle tissue into humans. Meanwhile, Joe grew up bucking every gender norm she encountered, especially those behaviors deemed suitable for a young oil heiress like herself. Joe would later claim she came out of the womb queer. By the age of 11, she'd taken to wearing men's clothes, rejected other practices deemed feminine, and traded her given name, Marion, for the more masculine Joe. Before Joe could enter secondary school, her mother shipped her off to a Connecticut charm school in the hopes that Joe would pick up high society customs. But by the time she turned 16, Joe broke out of boarding school and enlisted as an ambulance driver in World War I. Displeased with her daughter's behavior, Fanny threatened to cut Joe off financially unless she straightened up and got married. In 1918, Joe married a French aristocrat and childhood friend. Three years later, Fanny died. Joe took her money, annulled her marriage, and was back to living under the car stairs' name as a liberated heiress. Joe used her money to start a women-only car service. She called it X Garage. It consisted entirely of women drivers and mechanics and also functioned as a car hire service. Customers included veterans and widowers of war, as well as London's elite. Joe lived above the garage, sometimes accompanied by friends and lovers. But cars proved too tame for Joe. In 1925, she funneled at least half a million dollars into speed boats and yachts, determined to become a motorboat champion. She won her first trophy with her first speedboat named Gwen after a former girlfriend. She also went on to win the competitive Duke of York's trophy. Her attempts to win the Harmsworth Trophy, the most prestigious motorboat prize in the world, proved less fruitful. Despite multiple attempts and multiple custom-made boats, Joe never won. She did, however, earn herself a nickname for her dedication to the sport. Fans knew her as the fastest woman on water. Joe's personal life was a hot topic in tabloids. She was well-known around town for her tattooed arms and masculine fashion. She became even more well-known for the group of on-again, off-again lovers she amassed. The group included the likes of Tallulah Bankhead, Greta Garbo, Marlene Dietrich, and Dolly Wilde, Oscar Wilde's niece. One of Joe's most famous eccentricities was a gift from a former girlfriend, a 12-inch tall doll she named Lord Todd Wadley. She became so attached to the doll she had custom luxury clothes made for it and added its name to her front door plaque. In 1934, Joe bought herself a private island in the Bahamas for $40,000. On the island, she built Whale Cay, a resort hideaway for her famous array of sometimes friends, sometimes lovers. She set up a power plant, a radio station, a schoolhouse, and even a personal museum on the island. Eventually, she purchased four more islands. Joe's relationship with Whale Cay fell somewhere between owning land and, as Joe herself would later put it, running a country. She gave several friends and staff on the island stipends for life. Most of them were based on the same name Most of them were Bahamians who lived there prior to Joe's arrival. While reports of Joe's exploits stressed her financial generosity and focus on local agriculture, her approach was also deemed paternalistic. In 1975, Joe sold Whale Cay and moved to Florida. In her later years, she recorded monologues of herself on tape so someone could someday write a biography of her life. She died at the age of 93 in Naples, Florida. She requested to be cremated, and in proper Joe Carstairs fashion, she took Lord Todd Wadley with her. All month, we're celebrating Pride. For more on why we're doing what we're doing, check out our newsletter, Womanica Weekly. Follow us on Facebook and Instagram at Encyclopedia Womanica. Special thanks to Liz Kaplan, my favorite sister and co-creator. Talk to you tomorrow. incredible interviewer who explores life's challenges with guests to frame them differently. In conversation, Lucy and her guests share the wisdom that helped them survive their hardest moments. 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