Dynamos: Mary Wesley

Episode Summary

The Wamanica podcast episode "Dynamos Mary Wesley" tells the story of British novelist Mary Wesley. Mary was born in 1912 to a wealthy British family. She was neglected by her mother and never received a formal education, instead being taught by a revolving door of governesses. In her 20s, Mary married Beren Swinfen and had two sons, though the marriage was unhappy. During World War II, Mary worked in intelligence and embraced the freedom of being newly single. In 1944, Mary met Eric Ziepmann, a playwright, and they fell deeply in love despite her family's disapproval. They stayed happily together for nearly 30 years until Eric's death in 1970 devastated Mary. She was left with no money or income, so she began writing novels even though she had never pursued writing seriously before. At age 70, her first novel "Jumping the Q" was published and became a huge success. Mary went on to publish many more bestselling novels in the 1980s and 1990s that explored provocative topics like sexuality and difficult relationships. Her writing allowed her to process parts of her own life story. Mary continued writing until her death in 2002 at age 90. She lived a dynamic life, overcoming personal struggles and tragedy to find literary success and fulfillment later in life.

Episode Show Notes

Mary Wesley (1912-2002) was one of Britain’s best-selling novelists. Her ten books sold more than 3 million copies – an incredible feat, considering she didn’t publish her first novel until she was 70 years old.

Episode Transcript

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This month, we're highlighting women who've led dynamic lives, shifted, evolved, and bloomed, often later in life. Today's Wamanican was one of Britain's best-selling novelists. Her 10 books sold more than three million copies, an incredible feat considering she didn't publish her first novel until she was 70 years old. Let's talk about Mary Wesley. Mary was born in 1912, the youngest child of a British army colonel and his wife, Violet. Born into a world of wealth and society, Mary was raised with the expectation that she'd never have to work, so she never went to school. A revolving door of governesses took over her education. Once, when she asked her mother why her governesses were always leaving, her mother reportedly said, "'Because none of them like you, darling.'" Despite neglect from her mother, Mary grew into a beautiful, curious young woman. Eager to learn more about the world, she took courses at the London School of Economics. But Mary also understood the expectations of a woman in her position. She was presented at court, and when she was 25 years old, married Beren Swinfen. Mary gave birth to two sons, but her marriage was not a happy one. Years later, she admitted that her second son, Toby, was the result of an affair. After a few years, Mary left the Beren. Their eventual divorce in 1945 scandalized her family. Like a lot of British women with Mary's education and social standing, Mary worked in intelligence during World War II, and despite the horrors of the war, Mary thrived. She was newly single, making a difference with her work. She later described the era as, "'An atmosphere of terror and exhilaration in parties, parties, parties.'" Her life became one of excess, lots of drinking, and lots of lovers. In 1944, Mary met Eric Ziepmann, a playwright and journalist. He was half Irish, half German, and Mary's family strongly disapproved. But Mary and Eric were head over heels in love, and they stayed that happy for nearly three decades. In 1970, Eric died. His death wrecked Mary. She later wrote that she felt like she'd been cut in half, like a carcass at the butcher's. And it wasn't just that she'd lost her partner. Mary, suddenly a single mother, was also left with no money and no income. She sold her jewelry and knitted pieces. And she started writing again. For much of her life, Mary had penned stories, but despite encouragement from her late husband, she often threw them in the garbage. In the midst of her grief, she started working on a new novel, Jumping the Q. The plot was personal. A widow can't bear the idea of living without her husband, so she plans a suicidal picnic. And chaos, unexpected, exciting, sensual chaos ensues. The book was sad and funny and a bit eccentric, and unlike most books on the market. Mary showed it to a friend who encouraged her to submit it to publishers. After a few no's, Jumping the Q found a home with Macmillan Publishing, and in 1982, it hit the shelves. Mary, 70 years old and still barely scraping by financially, suddenly was a literary star. For a big part of the 1980s and 1990s, a new year meant a new Mary Wesley book. Her novels featured sex and sexy language, topics that seemed off limits for a woman like Mary. And though none of them were memoirs, many of her novels allowed Mary to explore parts of her life on paper. Several were set during World War II, when Mary had had something of an awakening. Some featured difficult relationships between mothers and daughters. Some main characters struggled with hatred and anger and violence. Some even kill. Mary kept writing until her death in 2002 at the age of 90. She was buried next to her husband, Eric, in a shiny red coffin that she'd ordered from a local craftsman. For years, she'd used it as a coffee table. All month, we're highlighting dynamos. 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